Julia Roberts and her new movie “Eat,Pray,Love”

The author of book “Eat,Pray,Love”, Elizabeth Gilbert, is very famous. And it won’t take too long before we could watch the movie of her journey. As the novel told us the story, the shooting was starting from Italy, and India, before they starting to shoot on Bali as the core of the journey. Julie Robert would shoot with another 50 crews of Plan B Intertaintment and Paramount Picture for a month in certain location like Ubud, Monkey Forest, Banjar Nyuh Kuning and Pengosekan, also Ubud Art Market.

On this movie also involved James Franco, Richard Jenkins, Billy Crudups, Viola Davis, and Javier Bardem.This movie would be directed by Ryan Murphy, before he had directing Running With Scissors and Dirty Tricks.

The story told the journey of Elizabeth Gilbert,a successful woman who had gained everything before 30. But in the end, all she got only anxious, panic, confuse until it beginning to become sadness, depression, divorce, failure of love, and losing direction of her life. But she took over control of her life again by took an extreme choice. She leave her job, her friends, her country and go around the world for a year. The first country would be Italy, as the country with famous delicious food. She learnt how to have fun and enjoy her life. She learnt Italian language and gained weight about 23 pounds. Next stop was India, a country with strong Hindu culture. Here she learnt about what is the meaning of pray and hope. She learnt about devotion. Her journey ended in Bali, she met Ketut Liyer and starting to complete her searching of balanced between Spiritual and love. She spent 6 months to cure herself and ended her finding because she met her love, Felipe, Bralizilian man. This movie would be published in 2010.

 

Fresh graduate in Indonesia is hard

Many people outside Indonesia probably had known that Indonesian people are the cheapest worker. It is really sad cause it also happen at the local job.

It started with no quality control, standarization of all school in Indonesia, has made companies could not set a standard for fresh graduate salary. People who are graduate and got associate degree, bachelor degree, and master degree get almost the same, depends on the experience.

But the point, no one appreciate the effort to get that degree in Indonesia. No standard, only experience and skill to speak.

Usually fresh graduate in Indonesia cannot support himself from his salary. Can eat,sleep, proper meal, but no buy something at all.

Few years ago, the salary of bachelor degree start from : Rp 1,5 juta each month. After ever jumped into Rp 1,8 juta,  the global crisis happened  and the basic salary starting to shrink again.

Isn’t it so sad ? That how much money have we spend to get that degree but there is no appreciation from the job world of our degree. It’s like useless, and unfair. People cannot living with this degree.

That’s why many people eager to open their own business. Eventhough it is small, but the income would be very different.

 

Something that you can find on Indonesia (part 1)

People non Indonesia, this is only some kind of information for you. If you have to visit with clueless to Indonesia. Generally, you can find Indomaret or Alfamart the most fastest growing mini market on Indonesia. Our local bookstore is Gramedia. For national newspaper you can grab KOMPAS, BISNIS INDONESIA. For instant newdle we have INDOMIE,SUPERMIE, MIE SEDAP. For the best Taxi, we have BLUE BIRD (GOLDEN, SILVER,BLUE CLASS). For the biggest airlines, we have GARUDA AIRLINES. While on the street, you can cross every spot you want,no rules. For newbie, remember to brings COKE when you wanna try our street food.  It is pretty common when you stop on trafic lights, there will be BEGGAR, SINGING BEGGAR. Sometimes, on some spot of intersection, we have MR OGAH who will try to manage the traffic jam that sometimes helping.

In Indonesia do not drink from the tap, we usually dress properly when we have to go to mall, we usually eat rice for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. But lately bread has been taking  a big part for breakfast. We usually not drink wine, beer,or alcohol daily. We usually drink plain water, tea, coffee. Indonesian love spicy and hot food. We love chilli.

The most famous tea is TEH BOTOL SOSRO. The most famous of mineral water  is AQUA. The thing that we should have is chili sauce and soy souce.

Something that you should know, Indonesia have few big islands which are SUMATRA, KALIMANTAN, SULAWESI,JAWA,IRIAN. But the famous one is BALI and  BATAM. We have two weather, DRY and RAIN.

For us Indonesian, you can always find like you want to find on BIZZARE kind of FOOD. From Brain, heart, eye, tail, tongue, limp, liver, intestimes… those are a common thing that we can cook and eat properly. No matter it is from cow, chicken, seafood, dog, bat, monkey, bird, ox, pig, deer, lamb, etc. Depends on which island you live.

For superstore we have CAREFOUR, HYPERMART, GIANT, MAKRO. For cellphone provider, we have (gsm) XL, TELKOMSEL, SATELINDO, 3, AXIS, SMART. And for the cdma, we have FREN, ESIA, FLEXI.

Usually the place whom tourists would love to go is Jakarta, Yogyakarta, Bali, Lombok, Menado. But I want to promote my hometown which is Semarang. This city are located on Central Java. Very nice traditional food, nice seafood restaurant, great street food, and no traffic jam. Eventhough it has  really humid climate. I love my hometown.

and Added information,  call (city code)+ 108 for asking phone number according to place or adress. There is no 911 here. Everybody don’t have to buy insurance, usually we need maid to clean our house.

You should call stranger with : young lady (mbak), young man (mas), old lady(bu), old man (pak); for the first time.

 

Life is simply simple as the word said

Many people including me says that Life is an experience of complex feeling with full of drama and tricks. Most people is not happy with their life, because life never defend them from a broken feeling, eventually life always put the wound close to us. So irritating and is like pain in the ass. But that is life. Life never lie, it is always telling us the truth. That’s why, the good and bad become in a package of our lives. Life is simple, you do then get, you fail then learn, you try then find. I was telling myself that life is not friendly at all. But the truth is, I saw life as a half dark earth on the other side which get light from the sun. We often only focus on our problem , stuck with it, and the problem sucking our hopes and soon our age. But life isn’t go anywhere, because we haven’t move.

People live with life. No matter how do you fill it, it would never be empty. Because life always find away to drag you spinning with it. Not only from the dark gloomy side, but also the light happier place.

We need to put trust to life would give us a chance to explore what we are and who we need to be. Life don’t have to be perfect, life is simple. You have life to get alive. Never forget about that.

 

Why I don’t celebrate Valentine

Valentine, the sacret event for a lovey dovey, a romantic moment for the couple, the perfect time to purpose. Valentine identically with red, heart, rose, chocholate, or perhaps LOVE.

But for me, Valentine is just like the other day. Perhaps it is still celebrating s everyone as a wholesaler, a retailer will get a good moment to do a new promotion. Get traffic for a couples of days.

Why we have to celebrate valentine if love can find us everyday ? I don’t believe to celebrate valentine. I believe to celebrate each day as a love new day. Because love born everyday not once a year.

Or perhaps the question comes up, do I believe in Love ? I’m not really good in Love game, but I do believe that we need love to live. We can love our home, our car, our computer, our country, our books, our gadget, our family, our friends, even our life. So we can define love  abundantly.

I love love and actually I ever falling in love with love, but none of love notice about my love. Love is complicated don’t you think so ? Yeah, I guess so.

 

Failure is a common things

When actually we’ve been grown up ? Can you feel it ? I can feel I have grown up or I should have to grow up.

I’ve been failing to one another. Not good at impressing people, made many mistakes that hurted my family, still don’t have a job, or probably have a good life. I’ve been breaking lots of thing and tried to fix it everytime, but none of it could be fixed. So I’ve been telling myself, hey you are just a trouble maker that could screw each time you almost make something better. So should I stop trying to screw my life ?

I was not be able to accept my imperfect self. I can not sing nice, I don’t have beautiful face, or I am not tall, or probably have a genius brain, and most of it, I cannot persuade people for being nice or like me. I’m just me, myself.

So Lately I’ve been thinking. I’ve been through a lot of failure, a lot. Nobody impressed by me. But what I forget, I had never learned from it. I keep trying to make a change but I never learned from my mistake and keep make another mistake.

We need to drag our courage to admit that we do a mistake that put us into a failure person. Don’t blame others surround you. I’ve been failure because I was too soft to myself to offended my rights, my dream, and my opinion among others. I was too shy to ask, too scare to make a mistake, too stupid to be perfect. Until in the end, none of it is my mark of success.

But one thing that I know. People will always have a failure in their lives. But they would be success if they could stand up again and fight.

That is why I never tell myself it’s too late to fix and to learn. Cause it is too late when you want to fix anything when you are death.

 

Enjoying the Process of Life

Life… what’s life for you ? How can you describe your life when you even forgot some idea how you should be proud with your life. But somehow, life can not be predicted, it is like a pinball, sometimes you goes up, sometimes, you stuck in some dilemma and sometimes, you get a jackpots full of joy. Yeah, life is like that.

Right now, I try to enjoy my life. Even it is not kind of life that I want. But it was probably the best moment for me to learn, listen, and patient.

Life would never be a waste. You can be somebody special for anybody. For family, friends, or even couple. But when the life goes down, you will feel like world has abandoned you. Each time you meet stranger, you feel like everybody judging of who you are and what have you done.

People made a mistake to learn from it. It is hurt, stupid, ridiculous, and totally painful.  Sometimes we even should learn more than once. That is the moment of failed in your life.

And then what next ? Hiding… blame others… is not a good following action. As I saw Nicole Kidman on Oprah, she told everybody proudly, she is not a quitter. She loves to confront the problem even though sometimes it takes tears, heart, stress, brain, but she knew that she has to confront it.

After that show, I got what I need to do. I know that I should learn from my life until this time. Thinking and not regret, ready to confront my problem and other people and speak loudly that I am here.. exist.. beautiful.. and worthy.

We never begin with success, we would always begin with failure. I shouldn’t deny my mistakes so that others could learn from me, cause I want to learn from them too.

I realize that is not how we have to love ourselves or how we need to proud of who we are, but how we could  love all  the process that happen on us. How is the process could change and shaping us into a better person.

I learnt that I cannot fight the process, than I should receive it and embrace it.

 

The confession of The compulsive shopper

Ladies, have you wondering why some of you can go to mall and shopping without need a reason ? yes, because we become compulsive and not impulsive anymore. It’s like me. Actually I can go to Department Store and see all of thing looks blink blink while my credit card on my purse starti to shaking waiting to go to cashier. With this writing, I would like to share to feeling and the signs that you are one of the compulsive shopper.

First, you will think that any other big city and other country will be great place because you can buy something or spend some money to buy labels. Yes of course we would enjoy the scenery, so calming and relaxing. But As compulsive shopper, we will feel calming and warmer in heart each time we go into store and find something interesting to buy. Haha…

Second, we always find needs to buy something. You can buy another pink lipstick with different labels while you still have two in your purse. Or you need to buy the black stiletto because the heels are shorter than you have right now. While watching black stiletto suddenly your eyes stuck with the nice boho bag with  satin motif. Ahaa…

Third, you always forgot the price of stuff that you’ve just bought out from store. Or you just never care or think about the price at all. Well, actually it happens really often. So when another person saw it and ask how much did u pay for it ? Suddenly you would be gone blank.

Fourth, It is really dangerous to stay close with the sales staff, because you are easy to be persuaded by them to buy. You are easy to receive compliment and deceived by mirror around you plus the smile from sales staff. You really put your trust because they said it looks good on you.

Fifth, you go to mall more than three times a week. With or without discount, you still carry big pride to buy something. You don’t even care about the price!!

Well, see… shopping is part of an addicted habit which can drag you into poverty because of stupid reason. hehehe….

 

It’s never too late to give in

Have you watched the new movie of Will Smith, Seven Pounds. It is a very brave action of a man. The true hero for some people. It is a really good movie. After watched it, the question just come up into the surface. Have we ever done for somebody ?

I know the movie is about true heroes who brave to sacrifice his precious life. But let us talk about something lighter. About how to give in… It’s pretty hard too aren’t they ?

We always forgot how we’d treat people, but we would never forgot how are people treat us. Somehow the law of cause and effect shouting to another. Many people always told us to give in for good cause it will back to us more than we let go. But is it true ? When do we know that the time we give in would be better for us ?

Questioning the truth is the habit of human. We cannot believe a plain explanation and always try to dig deeper for truth. Why we have no brave to take the simple explanation like that while the truth is like that, so simple.

We give something then we have nothing. That’s it. But this is an earth with complex population and the modern civilization. We will always have another option to choose isn’t it. We cannot forget that human never ever feel satisfied with what they already had.

If someone raise his hand and ask, once again unsatisfied feeling, why we should give in if that would cost us more ? We are not an angel, we give what we could give, we are just thing from blood and flesh, but live. Brave cannot measure by how big u could give in and then count it on each step and recall that person again about how good you are to them. But give in is about to let go an important thing while we still have desire to have it, but we know there is someone out there needs more then we are. We have to give it and let go.

Feel the relieve and be better person. Life isn’t always about ego, yes it is always about survive, but sometimes we need to learn to stop and change another direction.

 

Shopping, the emotional moment

Shopping, the greatest moment among woman to do. Starting from walking into a shop, searching, browsing, make a  product contact and then we make a decision should we buy it. But stop from that, are u aware that there is something happen with us when we act on the shop ?

From one article of marketing magazine that I’ve just read which it is still related with my research. At last, I’ve found the best definition.

P(Propensity)= (N(Needs)  + F (Features) + A (Affordability) ) x E(Emotion)2

They get this definition from Pamela N.Dazinger, one of the author who had written about Shopping. She call it the quantum theory of shopping. Lets try to find out what the formula tell us.

As the propensity show us the result that we could concluded after several action in the store, we could connect it with what actually we needs. As you see, sometimes we still confuse between needs and want.

We all need cloth and food, but what color or how much we need some pair of shoes or how big our clutch to bring is a different thing. You see, people in the store suddenly would feel that they have lots and lots of new needs that show up after they saw the product fashion. It means, the retailer had succeed to pull a new needs which it simply influence by culture, personality, and don’t mention our life style. Sometimes we forgot that what we want suddenly turn around as what we need.

But somehow prospensity happened not actually because of the product looks good, but the value that retailer put on it has telling you that it is worth it. That is why you keep telling yourself that you need to buy those stuff. Don’t forget even though the product has reach your expectation of value, but how about the affordabilty ? Can you buy it ? Still, price would always become our basic problem as a shopper.

Among all of those activities, so what actually that would persuade you and act fast to buy ? The answer is emotional feeling. Paco Underhill, my beloved author of shopping tell us that shopping is almost all of it talking about woman, and woman always conclude psychologist and emotion to do shopping. We use our heart to shopping not our brain, ladies !! What a surprise huh…

The emotion takes the biggest part among shopping, and that is why sometimes we cannot put any reason why we have to buy a lipstick while we still have a abundant lipstick at home. We sometimes cannot understand our action even though the Jimmy Choo shoes so expensive, but we still try to buy it even though there are abundant of others label who can do the same function. Because we like it, because we feel it would fit with us, because we think that it would make us more beautiful. Feeling, instinct, every kind of emotional impression would suddenly go onto the surface.

Because we are a woman.