It’s never too late to give in

Have you watched the new movie of Will Smith, Seven Pounds. It is a very brave action of a man. The true hero for some people. It is a really good movie. After watched it, the question just come up into the surface. Have we ever done for somebody ?

I know the movie is about true heroes who brave to sacrifice his precious life. But let us talk about something lighter. About how to give in… It’s pretty hard too aren’t they ?

We always forgot how we’d treat people, but we would never forgot how are people treat us. Somehow the law of cause and effect shouting to another. Many people always told us to give in for good cause it will back to us more than we let go. But is it true ? When do we know that the time we give in would be better for us ?

Questioning the truth is the habit of human. We cannot believe a plain explanation and always try to dig deeper for truth. Why we have no brave to take the simple explanation like that while the truth is like that, so simple.

We give something then we have nothing. That’s it. But this is an earth with complex population and the modern civilization. We will always have another option to choose isn’t it. We cannot forget that human never ever feel satisfied with what they already had.

If someone raise his hand and ask, once again unsatisfied feeling, why we should give in if that would cost us more ? We are not an angel, we give what we could give, we are just thing from blood and flesh, but live. Brave cannot measure by how big u could give in and then count it on each step and recall that person again about how good you are to them. But give in is about to let go an important thing while we still have desire to have it, but we know there is someone out there needs more then we are. We have to give it and let go.

Feel the relieve and be better person. Life isn’t always about ego, yes it is always about survive, but sometimes we need to learn to stop and change another direction.

 

It never too late to Forgive

I saw on each of my experience relationship with friends and relative. Many things had happen for each second you made contact with them. Suddenly you feel pain not in the body but deeper than that, it is in the heart. You have no shield for that because they use emotion to attack it.

We need to realize that sometimes people made mistakes and hurt somebody. Directly or indirectly of course will brings such a bad response and bad memory forever. It could happen to anyone and because of everyone. Not only strangers, but also friends, teacher, lover, parents, or even your own children. Once when I saw the serial movie Brothers and Sisters, the mother said to her daughter while the daughter ask her to forgive and stop the coldwar, the conversation is like this :

” You know I never meant to hurt you ” , said her daughter

” Yes I know ” , the mother response it short. ” But it doesn’t mean that you wouldn’t hurt me” . she make her daughter to understand that she need time to heal.

Even me very often drawn by the wound of the heart, sometimes I try to encourage myself to forget the past and set  a brand new start for new relation with them. But apparently is not easy. I call it a self center vision where you claim that you are the victim. But how about others feeling and background ? Why they could hurt us and why we can be hurt like that ? Who needs to be blame for this ?

Most of people like I did myself will make a huge wall from them the one who had hurt you. But sometimes there are some people who are easy to forgive and compromise, they just look innocent by thinking it’s just a common thing that could happen to somebody else.

Apparently I was amaze with that behavior, and I try to encourage myself that to forgive the one that had hurt you would not make you die. It even release the burden that you always brings everywhere every night and every minute. It took all of your courage and your pride to forgive someone.

Maybe we still have to learn how to manage our feeling.

 

Is it too Late to become a Nice person

When we grew up and became someone that you don’t even ever imagine about it, maybe worst then what you’d think or better, the picture of past will come trough our mind. Every mistakes that we have done and perhaps many lies to others. So who needs to be blame for it ? Only Regrets… yes that useless one.

Regrets, we talking about it and suddenly would make your heart beating faster and your body feels heavier. When I saw Grey’s Anatomy, I caught the words that feels really punch my heart. On that movie the lady said that “Becareful, You have been reckless with your life” And it’s true. Sometimes, we just do some action without even think that we cannot back to that time and fix it or change it. We can imagine how our ego have been beating others feeling and hurting others. Sometimes we enjoy it to relieve our own feeling because the wound that nobody even notice.

The effect of it is other pain and bad relation with others. Of course it make us irritating, lonely, and also guilty. Sometimes we never mean to be mean to others, is just our emotion has take control to our action.

So the question is, is it too late to become a nice person ?

In my opinion, No is not too late. I don’t believe in too late, because life is still moving. Don’t ever said too late to yourself. If you have hurting someone, or play stiff and cocky, deep in your heart, you know that is wrong. You know actually how others would response those, but you still do it like it is something that you must do. You forget that you have a chance to change the situation.

A nice person is someone who have empathy to their environment. You are not weak if you open your heart and share your vision and try to listen to others.

You always has a chance to become a nice person again and again. It’s never wrong to change yourself. Never wait others to change before you try to change yourself.

It’s never too late to become someone who is sincere and full of affection. Throw that mask of your lies and become new person who will make you feel relieve. Another person will feel it and they would not laugh or ignore you, they will understand and feel happy to approach you.